Understanding
It’s not just hot flushes, not just women in their 50s and not a short experience. If it’s impacting someone at home then it’s definitely going to impact them at work.
Empathy
You don’t need to fix things, you need to be patient. It doesn’t help to just say go and get hormonal replacement therapy (HRT). Men need to understand it’s a natural transition that can last for quite a long time. It can also have an impact on a person’s daily life at home and work.
Language
It’s about knowing what to say, and what definitely not to say.
Let’s Talk Menopause For Men is a really good book, by Ruth Devlin, that I’d recommend on the topic.
A couple quick tips from Ruth: “Never, and I mean never, say, ‘It must be your hormones…’ or ‘Maybe it’s that time of the month again’. These comments are like a red rag to a bull. Do, however, become a model listener and become an expert in creating a calming atmosphere whenever possible.”
Dialogue
Start a wider conversation about menopause. Break down barriers to discussion. Several organisations have set up “Menopause Cafes”, where all employees can openly come together to talk about their experience.
Visibility
Other organisations are appointing “Menopause Champions” to literally champion and promote menopause support at work. The more visible the channels of support, the more people will feel comfortable with using them.
Pathway
It’s really useful for men to know the
resources that are available for women. Sometimes women get so drowned in the symptoms they’re not able to look outside and realise help is available.